Friday, February 18, 2011

You have not because you ask not...

Have you ever heard that saying? It comes from the bible, James 4:2 and really says :Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not. The bolded part is what I am living right now.. I have for some time been going back and forth over which lawyer would best be able to help me with our contracts and pre-birth parentage order or "PBO" in the surrogacy world. I started out with a list of recommendations and scratched names off for various reasons, such as cost, attitude or personality, time it took them to get back to me and their general knowledge of what we were asking. My list got really short really quick. It got even shorter once we decided we wanted a lawyer in GA, since that is where the baby(ies) will be born (once we get that BFP of course!). So after talking with a wonderful lawyer, she sent me her fee schedule and my heart sunk, there was no way we could afford her. So my 2nd choice was fine, but let's face it, they were 2nd choice.. This was last year when we talked and I left it with both of them that I would get back to them and let them know.. Well, after this dismal cycle and all the money we have spent, I just decided 'what the heck, what's the worst that can happen right?" Meaning, I decided to email my FIRST CHOICE and be honest with her, letting her know that we loved her and wanted to use her for both parts of this journey, but we just couldn't afford the PBO portion of her fees. I went on to explain that we were quoted prices more in line with our budget and yada yada... She emailed me that night saying "let's talk tomorrow and see what we can come up with" well folks, let me tell you: SHE MATCHED THE OTHER ATTORNEYS PRICE! So we are getting the lawyer we want at the price we can live with, can I get an AMEN!! Moral of the story? Don't be afraid to ask for a better deal, the worst you can get is a NO and the best?? Well, you can get a YES and get exactly what you wanted! That is all.. :)


  1. That's wonderful!!!! =) Very, very cool.

  2. That is FANTASTIC news!! Good for you!!


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